The Four Ways Of Being
Every person operates at some version of their potential. No matter where you find
yourself now, you could be experiencing more of your potential or less of it. The same is true
of every marriage, every family, every business or any other organization of
Of course we're not always operating at our best level, we all have moments where
our perspective is very clouded and the insecurities of our personality come out in ways that
we're not proud of. I love the simple diagram below as a way of understanding our four primary ways
of being, seeing and doing. This is how we show up and what we bring to whatever we
A few definitions to better understand and apply this diagram:
1) By Engagement, I mean how much of your attention you bring to whatever is infront of you
at the moment, how much of your full presence you show up with to anything you do. How much is your
attention scattered on all sorts of thoughts about the past, or worries about the future or what other
people might be thinking of you in the present? This is very much a moment by moment measurement.
2) By Attachment, I mean how attached is your own internal state of peace
and well-being to the outcome of whatever you are putting your attention on. Is everything you
do a means to a hoped for end in which you can then feel the inner state of well-being IF and only IF
things turn out as good or better than you hope for? If so, you operate from a high level of
attachment. But if your state of inner peace and well-being is innate and independent from your
accomplishments and how things turn out, you operate from a low level of attachment.
We all have shown up as all of these types. Three of the types are all personality
dominant ways of showing up. The Peaceful Warrior is the exception. It is the natural
way of the Soul showing up. When we are operating from the version of ourselves that is
the Peaceful Warrior, we are operating at the higher, better and more effective version of
ourselves and it shows in EVERYTHING we do.
Becoming A Peaceful
WarriorThe main focus of my coaching and consulting practice
is to support individuals in their becoming Peaceful Warriors in everything they do-
within themselves, within their personal relationships and families, and within any business or
organizations they are part of. We all need support in this undertaking because it has been
completely programmed out of us by our society. The good news is that once we can bring
consciousness to the habits of action and thought that we've been programmed with that keep us from
being Peaceful Warriors, the actual being it comes naturally, because it is the very nature or our
souls that has only been covered up by the layers of insecurity of our personalities. If you would
like support in becoming a Peaceful Warrior in all you do, let's talk.
Here's just a few of the results of becoming a Peaceful Warrior in your life:
- You stop being so hard on yourself and trying to live up to expectations of others that
you've confused with your own desires, and instead you begin to actually accept and receive your own love
and appreciation that is innate within you and that you already have earned just by being who you already
are (but may not be aware of yet).
- You gain greater levels of clarity on how thought, attention, mind and consciousness all
work in a dynamic system and you learn to literally feel what level of clarity you are coming from in any
moment and make better decisions based on that understanding.
- You'll learn how to know when you can't trust the way things appear to you at the
moment and so you don't make any important decisions or have any important conversations when you're
there and you wait until you are coming from a place of greater clarity, with a deep knowing that it is
- You enjoy everything you do more. The more presence and attention you bring to
whatever you do, the more you enjoy it. Its that simple. Anything can be enjoyable with
enough presence brought to it.
- You take on things that you've been avoiding
- You get unstuck and make decisions and take action that you've been
- You get clear on WHY you do what you do and you begin to naturally do things for your own
love of doing them, not to please or avoid displeasing anyone else.
- You shift from a personality-driven perspective of accomplishment, earning love and
comparing yourself to others, to a soul-driven perspective of contribution and inner peace regardless of
- You get clear on what is your business, what is the other person's business and what is
God's business (the only three types of business there are) and you bring all of your presence and
attention to those things that are in your business in any situation and withdraw it from those things
that aren't your business.
A Clarity Partnership
If you really want to uncover the Peaceful Warrior in you, there is simply nothing as
effective as hiring a good coach and committing to a process of upgrading who you are
To me there is nothing more amazing and wondrous than the human mind, except for what
happens when two human minds come together to create a "Mastermind." In that space, miracles happen! My
definition of a miracle I take from Syd Banks "A Miracle is the right use of Mind." I've experienced
it myself- on both sides of the coaching equation- by paying others to coach me and by being paid to
There is simply not a more powerful formula for transformation. You can read all the books and go to
all the seminars and retreats that you want, but trying to transform yourself on your own is simply not as
effective. You can make some progress, but there is something about the way we are designed as human beings
that it takes two people working together in harmony to really transform. For whatever reason, we can
only reach greater levels of our inner potential by having the humility to open up to another person and the
commitment and accountability to work with them to unlock our deeper potential.
It's always been this
way. It's still true today, and always will be. Every high performing person in any
walk of life has a coach of some sort. Top performing athletes, actors, entrepreneurs, business leaders
or political leaders all have coaches. They may not always call them a coach, but there is someone in
their lives that they are willing to open up to and work with on a regular basis to help them identify and
subtract from their lives everything that keeps them from a more complete expression of their
own innate greatness.
I designed my Clarity
Catalyst logo to visually symbolize what happens when two minds create a clarity partnership.
That is what I want for you- whether its with me or someone else.
Interested in exploring
"Our chief want in life is to find someone who
will make us do what we can."
- Ralph Waldo